You Don’t Have to Be Perfect, But You Do Have To Be You

You Don't Have to Be Perfect, But You Do Have To Be You

While most people think self-acceptance is the same thing as self-esteem, the two are actually quite different. Self-esteem is the value we have in who we are, while self-acceptance is our ability to embrace all aspects of ourselves. Simply put, it means both understanding your value and fully embracing your personality and actions.

 It is not enough to just accept the positive in yourself. To truly experience self-acceptance; you must also accept your quirks and weaknesses. It is not easy to accept the things we may not like about ourselves, but once we start accepting who we really are, we can begin the process of meaningful self-improvement. Self-acceptance can be difficult at first, but here are a few suggestions to help you along the journey!

Don’t Rush Things

The process of accepting yourself takes time. It is not easy but loving the person you are will make you happier. Not only will you feel more at peace with yourself, but you will connect better with others as well. Once you accept yourself, you will have an easier time finding others who also embrace you for you. Learning to accept yourself begins with understanding that one does not have to achieve perfection and that it is okay to simply exist just the way you are. A great first step is learning to accept your mistakes and to acknowledge that both good and bad things are part of life.

Get To Know Yourself

Many people have no idea who they truly are. Self-discovery is a necessary step towards self-acceptance.  Even though a lot of us can love and accept others as they are, we still harshly judge ourselves. I believe that is because humans hate to recognize our own weaknesses. Once we truly get to know ourselves, we can choose to accept everything that makes us unique. Journaling is an amazing way to get to discover more about yourself. Try to set aside fifteen or twenty minutes a day just to write out your feelings and thoughts!

Accept That There Are Things You Can’t Change

There are things you can do to change your life for the better, but there are also things that will never change. Wishing that you could change things that will never change is just a waste of time and energy.

To be happy with who we are, we must let ourselves accept all who we are, flaws and all. Take the time to be kind to yourself and learn to overcome that inner voice that says “you are not good enough”.

Forgive Yourself

In order to forgive ourselves, we have to admit that we have made mistakes in the past. This is incredibly difficult, but it is also a crucial step towards self-acceptance. As long as we feel like we are not good enough to deserve forgiveness, self-acceptance can seem difficult. Remember that mistakes and failures are part of being human. They also help us learn and grow. Every misstep is a stepping stone on your path through life. Take responsibility, acknowledge your mistakes, and try to use those mistakes to work towards better choices in the future.

As you learn to accept yourself, you will also be able to work towards becoming the best version of yourself you can be. This will bring you happiness and success.

22 responses to “You Don’t Have to Be Perfect, But You Do Have To Be You”

  1. This is the exact thought that has been running in my head the past few days. We are perfectly imperfect, and that’s ok because that’s us. I love the insights that you shared here.

    1. Thank you! Perfectly imperfect is a wonderful way to put it!

  2. Getting to know yourself and embracing who you are isn’t always easy. We have people- often family members- who try to define us and tell us who we are. They often get it completely wrong, but that pressure to play along with what others think of us can be difficult to shake off.

    1. It can be so hard to shake off other’s expectations!

  3. This is a great post about loving yourself. Especially, regarding forgiving yourself. It’s vital for your ability to love.

    1. It totally is!

  4. Such touching and inspirational article! I need to read something like this every morning. Im mother of two small kids and wife, and I started to forget who Im really.

    1. It can be so hard to keep your own identity as a mom! I struggle with that sometimes too.

  5. Getting to know yourself is the first step. I am finishing a short course on how to effectively do that. Knowing yourself has to be the basis for everything else — self-estem, self-love, etc. Great post!

    1. Thank you for reading!

  6. One of my grown kids has been writing down feelings daily. A part of therapy his girl talked him into so they can repair things in their relationship. He seems to be getting some things out of it.

    1. That is a great way to express feelings!

  7. Such a beautiful post, love the title of this post. I enjoyed reading it.

  8. Such a lovely post. It’s all about acceptance. Also, I write a lot. It helps.

    1. Writing helps me as well!

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    Anna Grunduls

    This is a wonderful post. Thank you for sharing it. Self-awareness really is the key to accepting ourselves. Since having a child, I really miss spending time alone and having the opportunity to “look inside my heart” and figure out what’s bothering me. I need to carve out some me-time for this.

    1. It can be so hard to find me time when you have a little one! I struggle with that too!

  10. what a great post! believe in yourself is such an important affirmation!

  11. Great post! The way I see it is that perfect doesn’t exist!

  12. I really enjoyed reading this

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